{"id":1751,"date":"2026-05-11T10:53:37","date_gmt":"2026-05-11T10:53:37","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/samgembel.com\/blog\/?p=1751"},"modified":"2026-05-11T10:53:38","modified_gmt":"2026-05-11T10:53:38","slug":"you-shouldnt-feel-like-a-stranger-in-the-room","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/samgembel.com\/blog\/you-shouldnt-feel-like-a-stranger-in-the-room\/","title":{"rendered":"You Shouldn\u2019t Feel Like a Stranger in the Room"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">&#8220;Great vision without great people is irrelevant.&#8221; &#8211; Jim Collins<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<p>One of the most interesting feelings in life is being in a room where everyone seems to be speaking a language you should understand, but somehow you don\u2019t.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I know just &#8220;enough&#8221; about sports. I absolutely love watching a great Detroit Lions game, cheering on the Detroit Tigers, or watching the Michigan Wolverines football on a Saturday afternoon. I enjoy the excitement, the competition, and the camaraderie. But when I get around true sports fanatics who can tell you a rookie\u2019s forty-yard dash time, the offensive coordinator\u2019s tendencies, and how a certain player compares statistically to someone from 1997, I quickly realize I am out of my league. I enjoy the game, but I do not speak the language fluently.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Leadership can be exactly the same way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If you are a leader, or you aspire to become one, there are certain concepts and terms that should not feel foreign to you. Words like personal growth, professional development, core values, vision, mission, culture, accountability, delegation, purpose, and influence should feel familiar. This does not mean you need to know everything. It does not mean you need to quote every leadership book ever written or have a doctorate in organizational behavior. But it does mean that when you sit in a room with other leaders and these topics come up, you should not feel like a stranger.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>There should be a <em>sense of connection.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>There should be a <em>shared language.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>There should be a common understanding that leadership is not simply a title. Leadership is a calling to continually grow so that you can better serve others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>John C. Maxwell famously said, \u201cLeadership is influence, nothing more, nothing less.\u201d If leadership is influence, then growth is not optional. Your ability to influence others is directly tied to your willingness to keep learning, improving, and stretching yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When you are around other leaders, there should be a natural resonance. You should find yourself leaning into conversations about vision, asking questions about systems, discussing culture, and sharing ideas about how to develop people. Not because you know it all, but because you have chosen to become a student of leadership. Great leaders do not pretend to have all the answers. They remain humble enough to admit what they do not know and hungry enough to keep learning.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>That distinction matters.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This blog is not about making anyone feel inadequate because they cannot define every business term or recite every quote. It is about recognizing that if leadership feels completely foreign to you, despite carrying the responsibility of leading others, it may be a sign that you have stopped investing in your own development.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The same principle applies to our faith.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If you are a follower of Jesus, or identify as a christian, being around other believers should not make you feel uncomfortable. There should be a shared connection rooted in faith, grace, truth, and purpose. Conversations about prayer, discipleship, Scripture, obedience, and trusting God should not sound like a foreign language.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>That does not mean you need to be a theologian. It simply means that as someone who claims to follow Jesus, you should be increasingly familiar with His teachings and His ways.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When believers gather, there should be a sense that you are with family. You should be vibing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If spiritual conversations consistently make you uncomfortable, that may be an invitation to spend more time studying the life and teachings of Jesus. The discomfort is not something to be ashamed of. It is a signal that growth is available.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Leadership works the same way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Jim Collins wrote, \u201cGreat vision without great people is irrelevant.\u201d To become one of those great people, you must commit to intentional growth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Here are three signs you may not be investing in your development as a leader:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>1. Leadership conversations feel confusing or intimidating. When others discuss vision, strategic planning, accountability, or culture, you feel lost or disconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>2. You are relying only on experience. You assume that simply working hard or staying busy will automatically make you a better leader.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>3. You have no intentional growth plan. You are not reading, listening to podcasts, attending events, seeking coaching, or reflecting on how to improve.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong><em>But Sam, how can I grow in this arena? <\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>I thought you&#8217;d never ask! <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Here are three ways to begin growing immediately&#8230;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>1. Read and study consistently. Spend even fifteen minutes a day reading leadership books, studying, reading Sam&#8217;s blogs, or listening to podcasts that CHALLENGE your thinking.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>2. Surround yourself with growth-minded people. Join a mastermind, hire a coach, or intentionally build relationships with leaders who sharpen you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>3. Apply what you learn. Knowledge without action creates the illusion of progress. Growth happens when you implement new ideas and evaluate the results.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>One of the greatest shifts in my own journey occurred when I stopped viewing leadership as something I did and started viewing it as someone I was becoming. That mindset changed everything. I&nbsp;realized that my responsibility was not simply to solve problems or drive revenue. My responsibility was to grow into the kind of person capable of leading others with clarity, conviction, and humility.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The truth is, <em>you do not have to know it all.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But if you are committed to leadership, you should recognize the language.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You should feel at home in conversations about purpose, growth, and vision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You should be able to contribute thoughtfully, ask meaningful questions, and connect with others who are on the same journey.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And when you are around people who are pursuing excellence &#8211; whether in leadership, business, or faith &#8211; you should not feel like a stranger.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You should feel like you belong. Because growth leaves clues.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And the more you invest in becoming the leader God has called you to be, the more familiar these conversations will become. One day, what once felt foreign will feel like home.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And you will realize that leadership is not a destination where you finally arrive.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It is a lifelong journey of becoming.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So keep reading. Keep learning. Keep surrounding yourself with people who challenge you. Keep stepping into rooms that stretch your thinking.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Because the goal is not to know everything. The goal is to become the kind of leader who feels right at home among others who are committed to growing, serving, and making a meaningful impact in the world.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&#8220;Great vision without great people is irrelevant.&#8221; &#8211; Jim Collins One of the most interesting feelings in life is being in a room where everyone seems to be speaking a language you should understand, but somehow you don\u2019t. I know just &#8220;enough&#8221; about sports. 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