{"id":36,"date":"2021-09-27T06:04:00","date_gmt":"2021-09-27T06:04:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/samgembel.com\/blog\/?p=36"},"modified":"2021-11-12T15:54:32","modified_gmt":"2021-11-12T15:54:32","slug":"pride","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/samgembel.com\/blog\/pride\/","title":{"rendered":"Pride"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

“Pride makes us artificial and humility makes us real” — Thomas Merton<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When you think of the word pride, does it strike you as a positive thing or a negative thing? There are many positive types of pride. It\u2019s good to \u201ctake pride in our work.\u201d We like it when someone tells us, \u201cI sure am proud of you.\u201d All of these expressions communicate a positive kind of pride: dignity, respect and honor, traits that we all can embrace. But pride isn\u2019t always positive. Pride can also mean conceit, arrogance, or superiority. This kind of pride is based on self-centeredness, and it\u2019s destructive.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Selfish pride is especially destructive to relationships. That\u2019s because the opposite of loving others is not hating them but rather being self-centered. The great writer C.S. Lewis had this to say about pride: “The point is that each person\u2019s pride is in competition with everyone else\u2019s pride. It is because I wanted to be the big noise at the party that I am so annoyed at someone else being the big noise\u2026. Now what you want to get clear is that Pride is essentially competitive, is competitive by its very nature, while the other vices are competitive only, so to speak, by accident.”<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n


<\/em>Pride gets no pleasure out of having something, only out of having more of it than the next man. We say that people are proud of being richer, or better looking than others. If everyone else became equally rich, or good looking, there would be nothing to be proud about. It is the comparison that makes you proud: the pleasure of being above the rest. So how do we solve the problem of pride? There are several ways we can counteract our tendency toward self-centeredness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. Recognize and Admit Your Pride — <\/strong>C.S. Lewis said about acknowledging pride: \u201cIf anyone would like to acquire humility, I can, I think, tell him the first step. The first step is to realize that one is proud. And a biggish step, too. At least, nothing whatever can be done before it. If you think you are not conceited, you are very conceited indeed.\u201d He is saying this – You will not solve a problem that you don\u2019t know exists. You don’t know what you don’t know! <\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. Express Gratitude. — <\/strong>Henry Ward Beecher said, \u201cA proud man is seldom a grateful man, for he never thinks he gets as much as he deserves.\u201d There is something about saying \u201cthank you\u201d that takes our eyes off of ourselves and puts them back on the blessings we\u2019ve received and the people who have blessed us over the years.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. Be a Servant Leader — <\/strong>A person who is truly great is always willing to be little. But pride fights against servanthood, because a proud person demands to be served. Serving others requires us to focus on their needs rather than our own, and this also reminds us of how we are part of something much bigger than ourselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. Don’t be too ashamed to laugh at yourself. — <\/strong>There\u2019s an old saying, \u201cBlessed are they that laugh at themselves, for they shall never cease to be entertained.\u201d Once you begin to look for the humor in your behavior and situation, you find it everywhere. Prideful people take themselves WAY too seriously. By laughing at yourself, you begin to see how absurd we can all be sometimes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I’ll end it with this – If your pride pushes you toward performing with excellence, doing your best, and finding joy in the accomplishments and growth of others, it\u2019s probably the kind of pride that is helping you become a better leader. But if there\u2019s even a hint of competition or self-promotion involved in it, it\u2019s probably having a negative effect on your relationships with not just your subordinates and Team, but in your personal relationships also. That can hurt both your life AND your leadership. If that\u2019s true, do what I try to do every time I feel myself becoming too proud of a situation: I shift my focus onto others and follow the tips stated above!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

“Pride makes us artificial and humility makes us real” — Thomas Merton When you think of the word pride, does it strike you as a positive thing or a negative thing? There are many positive types of pride. It\u2019s good to \u201ctake pride in our work.\u201d We like it when someone tells us, \u201cI sure am proud of you.\u201d … Read more<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":67,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[4],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-36","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-leadership"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/samgembel.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/36","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/samgembel.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/samgembel.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/samgembel.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/samgembel.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=36"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/samgembel.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/36\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":68,"href":"https:\/\/samgembel.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/36\/revisions\/68"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/samgembel.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/67"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/samgembel.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=36"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/samgembel.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=36"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/samgembel.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=36"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}