The more I know, the more I realize I don’t know!
Leadership reminds me a lot of climbing up a mountain. When you first start the climb, the excitement is high and the path feels very manageable. You’re energized by the progress, encouraged by the early wins, and confident about where you’re headed!!! But the higher you climb, the thinner the air gets. The trail becomes steeper. The steps require more intention. What once felt exciting starts to feel demanding. And somewhere along the way you realize something important: the higher you go, the more strength, humility, and awareness the climb requires.
Leadership works the same way. The deeper you go, the more you begin to understand just how much there still is to learn.
One of the most humbling realizations in leadership is this: the more you learn, the more you realize how much you don’t know.
When I first started leading, I thought leadership was about having answers. I believed the person in charge was the one who knew the most, spoke the loudest, and could solve every problem that came their way. I thought leadership meant being the strongest voice in the room.
But over time, something started to happen. The more I read, the more I studied, the more leaders I surrounded myself with, the more I began to see how much deeper leadership really goes.
And the more I learned, the more I realized how little I actually knew.
Leadership is an evolution. It’s a progression of responsibility and awareness that unfolds over time.
It starts with leading yourself.
John Maxwell says it like this… “The greatest gap in leadership is between knowing and doing.”
Before you ever lead a team, before anyone ever follows you, the first person you are responsible for is the one staring back at you in the mirror.
Your discipline.
Your mindset.
Your habits.
Your reactions.
Early in my leadership journey, I discovered something that was both frustrating and freeing at the same time.
The hardest person I ever had to lead was MYSELF.
I’m a tough student.
I’m driven. I’m opinionated. I like to move fast. But those same traits that helped me start a business also made me realize something: if I couldn’t control my own emotions, reactions, and discipline, I had no business expecting others to do it either.
Leading yourself requires honesty. The kind of honesty that forces you to admit when you’re wrong, when you’re reacting instead of responding, when you’re letting ego creep into decisions.
Self-leadership is where leadership begins.
Once you learn to lead yourself, the next stage begins: leading one person.
This is where leadership starts becoming relational. You move from managing your own discipline to influencing another human being. You begin to realize that leadership is less about control and more about responsibility.
Suddenly, someone is watching how you show up. Someone is learning from how you react to stress, how you handle pressure, how you treat people when things go wrong.
When you lead one person well, you start understanding something powerful.
People don’t follow your words nearly as much as they follow your example.
But the journey doesn’t stop there.
Eventually, if you grow as a leader, you move into leading teams. And with that comes a new layer of complexity. Now it’s not just about influencing individuals. It’s about creating alignment among multiple people, different personalities, different strengths, different motivations.
At this level, leadership becomes less about doing the work yourself and more about creating the environment where others can succeed.
But there’s another level that many leaders never reach – leading leaders.
This is where leadership changes entirely.
When you begin leading leaders, your role shifts from solving problems to developing people who solve problems. You move from directing actions to shaping thinking. Your impact multiplies because you are no longer the one doing the work – you are developing people who can lead others.
And that’s when the real realization hits.
The more responsibility you carry, the more aware you become of your own limitations.
You start to realize that leadership isn’t about knowing everything. It’s about continuously growing into the next level of awareness.
The more you learn, the more you realize how much you still need to learn.
Early in leadership, confidence often comes from certainty.
But mature leadership is different.
Mature leadership comes from humility.
It comes from recognizing that growth never stops. That every level of leadership reveals a new set of blind spots. That the deeper you go, the more there is to understand about people, culture, influence, and yourself.
The irony is that the higher you go as a leader, the less you feel like you’ve “arrived.”
You actually feel more like a student than ever before.
And that’s a good thing.
Because the leaders who stop learning are the leaders who stop growing.
One of the greatest lessons leadership has taught me is this: if we want our organizations to grow, we have to grow ourselves first.
You can’t develop leaders if you’re not developing yourself.
You can’t expect your team to improve if you’ve stopped improving.
Leadership growth is never just about you. It’s about everyone connected to your influence.
When you grow, others grow.
When you stretch yourself, you create space for others to stretch.
When you commit to learning, you create a culture where learning becomes normal.
Grow yourself.
Grow others.
That’s the real work of leadership.
And if there’s one takeaway I’d leave you with, it’s this.
Whether you’re leading yourself, leading one person, leading a team, or leading leaders… the journey is the same.
Stay curious.
Stay humble.
Stay teachable.
Because the moment you think you’ve learned everything about leadership… is usually the moment you stop becoming the leader you’re meant to be.